I wasn’t premature and don’t have any children obviously, but do have lots of amazing friends who have had premature babies, some that survived, others that sadly didn’t make it, so I am writing a short post on hugs for my friend Kylie who works for Bliss.
I am a very reserved person, I don’t like huge shows of emotion, I’m most definitely my Nan’s Grandson, but sometimes a hug is needed and nice, I can’t imagine the longing and pain a parent must feel when they can’t hold their own baby, I would want to take it out of the incubator and pull the wires off!
And that is my angle on hugs, I can’t just pick up a baby and hug them no matter how much I want too, I can’t put my arms round a friend and squeeze them and I can’t comfort someone who is in tears, they have to initiate it. I usually don’t like hugs or affection as I’ve said, this makes things even harder, I can’t show if I want a hug, I see it as weakness, always have, but I so much want to hold that baby, comfort that friend and I’m sure I’d want to hug a partner too.
Make the most of your hugs, show someone you care, they are precious.